Rewriting your Story

Once life drops a challenge like Autism, we realize that the story we were living in, has met with an unexpected twist

In the minutes, that it takes the psychologist to tell us that our child has autism, we can find that our story is going to be completely different from that of our friends.

That, in fact, we are going to be living in a completely different genre of stories

We search for those with stories like ours

And we find them

We tell them our story

And we listen to theirs

We give comfort

And we feel comforted

And that was the way it was with me

But as time passed, I saw that I could rewrite my story

Indeed it was critical to do so

I realized that the most important story that I will ever tell, is the one I tell myself.

About me and my life.

And that I am not just the central character of my life

But also the author

Its most important audience

And the narrator

And so the story I started to write, has become a story of gifts and gratitude and love

And not a story of loss and fear and guilt

And I see my child as different, even gifted

And I stopped seeing him as broken

I have come to see the difficulties of my life

But am still deeply aware of its essential sweetness

And I find that I am not living in a sad story

Or a make-the-most story 

Or even a second-best story

And that the story that began so promisingly with “once upon a time” does end on a “happily ever after”

Because this is my story

And that is how I write .



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