The year begins
Peacefully enough
DH and I stand together on the patio of our cabin to welcome the new year where the snow covered mountain makes you feel like you are all alone in the world ( though in a nice way )
DH smokes a cigar
The tall trees that surround us sway so much that I wonder aloud how they dont fall
DH explains that the roots are really deep and that they are meant to be able to sway
"Without sway they would break"
And I think of how true this is of life as well
My floortime goals of 30 minutes daily
Except for 2-3 days where R and I were really sick - ( he has had something or the other sort of off with him since the past month ) we have floortimed every single day
I think the "just 30 minute" goal of doing Floortime - is pure genius
Concidentally R has reached the level where he is suddenly throwing the metaphorical ball of communication back
I am remembering to use a lot of affect - facial expression and joy
And when I remember to do Floortime first before the chores/routine take over - R is craving the engagement and seeking me out to Floortime some more !!!
This has not happened before
Though R has always loved to be with me - he has typically been more interested in cuddling and snuggling and I have to really work at getting the back and forth engagment cooking
he is just so much fun to play with right now
He will initiate play using props - here he is a witch on Halloween
I cannot figure out the reason -
Is R more ready ?( this is what DH tells me - perhaps to comfort - when I lament that I should have been doing this all along and how much time have I wasted )
Is it that school has been off for so many days ( owing to snow )? For he no longer likes school :-(
Is it that I am using so much affect ?
I dont know the reason but its delightful
The snow
The South has been having so much snow this year - The snow has been a joy and a pain
We have made up our mind to just give in and enjoy it
R has sledded for the first time - he loves to lie in the sled - Mother Nature provides an amazing sensory diet
He is developing some very typical responses
DH orders the Happy Monster Band - toys from Ebay and we tell him he has a gift from Santa
When he sees what is in the bag you shoould see the great expression of glee
Sometimes it truly feels like we enjoying R's childhood in slow motion
Work
Is unusually intense right now and I am so busy which is taking some of the joy away
Plus I am having to travel a lot which always causes me a lot of stress
Hopefully the pressure will ease in a little while
And yet there are so many moments of pure joy that I find myself saying a prayer of thankfulness many times each day
The plane landing delayed last night and knowing that DH was waiting for me at the airport and I would not be driving over the ice alone
His dear familiar smile and pious declaration of "Who works for you from morning to night"( for he has woken at 6 to drop me to the airport)
The charming way in which R runs to me demanding- "Love and hug"
Walking in the snow - on the mountain. Where no one but DH with snow chains on our tires - has dared to drive. And watching the sun turn the snow into diamonds
All the playing we do in the snow
I draw a big heart in the snow
I label it "Mom's heart" while R watches carefully
"Do you know what is inside Mama's heart " I ask, finger poised to write on the inside of the drawing
"R" says my son
Peacefully enough
DH and I stand together on the patio of our cabin to welcome the new year where the snow covered mountain makes you feel like you are all alone in the world ( though in a nice way )
DH smokes a cigar
The tall trees that surround us sway so much that I wonder aloud how they dont fall
DH explains that the roots are really deep and that they are meant to be able to sway
"Without sway they would break"
And I think of how true this is of life as well
My floortime goals of 30 minutes daily
Except for 2-3 days where R and I were really sick - ( he has had something or the other sort of off with him since the past month ) we have floortimed every single day
I think the "just 30 minute" goal of doing Floortime - is pure genius
Concidentally R has reached the level where he is suddenly throwing the metaphorical ball of communication back
I am remembering to use a lot of affect - facial expression and joy
And when I remember to do Floortime first before the chores/routine take over - R is craving the engagement and seeking me out to Floortime some more !!!
This has not happened before
Though R has always loved to be with me - he has typically been more interested in cuddling and snuggling and I have to really work at getting the back and forth engagment cooking
he is just so much fun to play with right now
He will initiate play using props - here he is a witch on Halloween
I cannot figure out the reason -
Is R more ready ?( this is what DH tells me - perhaps to comfort - when I lament that I should have been doing this all along and how much time have I wasted )
Is it that school has been off for so many days ( owing to snow )? For he no longer likes school :-(
Is it that I am using so much affect ?
I dont know the reason but its delightful
The snow
The South has been having so much snow this year - The snow has been a joy and a pain
We have made up our mind to just give in and enjoy it
R has sledded for the first time - he loves to lie in the sled - Mother Nature provides an amazing sensory diet
He is developing some very typical responses
DH orders the Happy Monster Band - toys from Ebay and we tell him he has a gift from Santa
When he sees what is in the bag you shoould see the great expression of glee
Sometimes it truly feels like we enjoying R's childhood in slow motion
Work
Is unusually intense right now and I am so busy which is taking some of the joy away
Plus I am having to travel a lot which always causes me a lot of stress
Hopefully the pressure will ease in a little while
And yet there are so many moments of pure joy that I find myself saying a prayer of thankfulness many times each day
The plane landing delayed last night and knowing that DH was waiting for me at the airport and I would not be driving over the ice alone
His dear familiar smile and pious declaration of "Who works for you from morning to night"( for he has woken at 6 to drop me to the airport)
The charming way in which R runs to me demanding- "Love and hug"
Walking in the snow - on the mountain. Where no one but DH with snow chains on our tires - has dared to drive. And watching the sun turn the snow into diamonds
All the playing we do in the snow
I draw a big heart in the snow
I label it "Mom's heart" while R watches carefully
"Do you know what is inside Mama's heart " I ask, finger poised to write on the inside of the drawing
"R" says my son
21 comments:
Weepy.
R you are so loved.
Have I told you lately, how much I love R? That was beautiful, K
How lovely this was to read. You have such a precious son and husband, K. You inspire me to live more in the moment every time I read your words.
What a lovely post! I love to lie and experience cold/snow as well as floating (like on a mattress in the water feeling the wind/waves.) He looks so calm and hugged in that little sled. I love the heart story! :)
Soooooo sweet. R and Audrey would be great playmates. Audrey love the Happy Monster Band too...didn't know that there was merchandise!
And that boy needs more than crocs for the snow...he needs some boots!!!
Awwww, that is just lovely that he knew he was inside your heart. Great that he is looking for floortime too:) Jen
Oh- your last line made me spontaneously leak from my eyes--and you tingled my nose--and my heart jumped!
Lovely, truly lovely.
And I was all set to quote your line "Sometimes it truly feels like we enjoying R's childhood in slow motion" and say yes! yes, and yes--Bobby was in slow motion, is still, and yet progress occurs. Connections are made. He is closest to me and to his sisters but hard for others to get close to, and I think, not really, you just have to be willing to enter his world. His sisters inhabit his world with him, but are better able to leave it and connect more easily with others.
And now I've written you a post...but I wanted you to know that your post spoke to me, touched me, and why. :-)
Sweet so sweet again.
Glad you are enjoying the snow :)
I love that he knew R was in Mama's heart. What a lovely story. Thanks for sharing it.
"Love and Hug" and the last bit with the heart in the snow and him knowing what is inside your heart---awesome! I love your posts!
Not only to the trees have deep roots but the swaying strengthens them. That bit of stretch causing growth, within. Like your blogging, K. With each and every post (sway) your words, thoughts are ever more powerful, emotional, insightful. This post overwhelms me with wisdom. You have just 'floortimed' me. I think I shall have to come here for personal growth for, ever.
Barbara
K, you are one of God's treasures...
The three of you R a complete package.
:o)
I LOVE THIS! It's beautiful! R is adorable!
R is just so precious!!
I loved reading this, so happy to hear of R's progress :). Enjoying childhood in slow motion, I feel the same and feel it is a blessing in its own way.
"Love and hugs" to you and your family!
I'm also doing DIR/Floortime therapy with my daughter and it's simply amazing the quick turn-around I've seen in her. I'm so happy to see your son also responding and engaging with you; keep it up!
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Those are the moments I cherish so much. The ones that make you want to freeze time. The ones that make you realize how important everyday is.
BTW, I just attended a workshop where they talked quite a bit about floortime. I really had no idea how much it entailed! Huge kudos for you for taking that on.
Loved this post! As always.
It always makes me feel grateful to read about your intentional enjoyment of family and parenting and being loved!
And from someone who worries about her kiddo's "stages" - sometimes they just simply are ready for something. And it has nothing to do with you not having tried it earlier. Or done more. Or spent additional time. It just happens that it clicks at that moment... and has far more to do with them (as they are always growing, darn those cute boys!)
Much love to you!
"Love and hug"
I love that! :) I think of you often and try to hear your common sense advice to get through the hard times and over myself. haha!
I'm back to tell you that I've given you The Most Awesome Award Ever Made, so please come by and pick it up!!
Wow! I loved the last incident. What a joyous and precious moment!
That was really beautiful :).
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